Happy Mother’s Day!

Filipinos celebrate Mother’s Day every second Sunday of May, for this year, it falls on 13th May. For me, today is nothing out of the ordinary, except that I got several Happy Mother’s Day greetings from family and friends. But what got me thinking is the role that I have played as a Mama to Ate Adz, Manay Jai and Kuya Jul. I have been away from them for a good part of their lives, been absent in very important moments of their lives. I wasn’t available in times when they needed a shoulder to cry on, wasn’t there to cheer them on in times when they’re down, wasn’t around to witness their triumphs. I realized I was not even a friend when they needed one. I have I missed a lot as a mother, and while I always say I love them, they may not have really felt that I do.  There is a huge difference between telling each

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Social Media : a boon or a bane

I have read a blog entitled What’s It Like Being Filipino which basically captures the good side of, yes, being a Filipino. I am a Filipino, and while I agree with what the blog says, I have discovered a lot more about being a Filipino, and who I am for that matter, with the advent of social media.  Of course, I have also observed, that what social media brought to light is not just about how is it to be a Filipino, but it has also brought to the fore a human character which otherwise has been hidden because of the division of space and time. Anyway, for this blog, I will limit myself into a scrutiny of the Filipino character, in relation to the current events that are unfolding in my country, its politics, its government, the people in the government and those who claim to be guardians of the Philippine democracy. Yes, Filipinos are a happy bunch, we are one

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From a mother’s perspective

One of the trending topics in the Philippines and popular among Filipinos around the world is #JusticeForKian.  Kian is the 17-year-old student killed by the police during the “one time, big time” operation against illegal drugs in the Philippines.  Still a part of President Rodrigo Duterte’s war on drugs.  What makes Kian stand out though, among the more than 80 people killed in just four days, is the fact that the police sang their usual tune of “nanlaban” while the footage from the barangay CCTV told a different story. An additional flavor to the story is about the OFW mother who works as a domestic helper in the Middle East. Now in the Philippines to mourn for her son, she demands justice. Of course. And whether she gets it is another story. As a mother myself, I feel the pain. No parent wants to bury her own son. And the pain that dreams have been snuffed out because of his

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Soar, wounded as you may be

Just today morning, I saw a post on Facebook that says, “Life is short. Cut out the negativity, forget gossip, say goodbye to people who hurt you.  Spend your days with people who are always there.” That statement is very simple, if it refers only to friends, acquaintances, colleagues, neighbors, enemies or just anybody.  In others words, saying goodbye to non-members of your family is easier, yes it hurts, but easier.  Easier to burn friendly bridges turned bridges of sigh although yeah, bridges of sigh can be relevant and attractive. From the way my Mama raised me and the values I’ve learned from her, goodbye should’t be apart of the family’s dictionary. “So long” yes, but not goodbye.  Family is family is family is family. A description of family not being always about blood, is gaining popularity.  The employees of a company is considered belonging to a family.  Overseas Filipino Workers (OFW) for example, become parts of a family not

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